I need to know if my parents are being realistic or ridiculous...?
they've always restricted what i can and cant do, im always the friend in the group leaving earliest because of curfew, and they've always had control over me- from the amount of time i can use my computer daily to what i "want" to do in life (surprise surprise, im being pushed into medicine). anyhow, my 18th birthday is this week (also graduating this year) and for my birthday/grad present, i want a trip to Mexico. the thing is, all they would have to pay for is the flight. its a long story, but i have a friend whos uncle owns a resort over there and for HIS grad present, his uncle is letting 20 people come and stay, all inclusively, for 2 weeks over the summer. therefore my parents would only need to pay for the flight, which is about the same price as the digital SLR camera i was going to ask for anyway. my mom initially said yes and said i need to talk to my dad, but my dad went on a rampage about how im just an over excited teenager waiting for the next whim (i hardly ever go on whims! ive thought this out for ages). the trip would go like this - i get a flight, WITH A FRIEND, from london to mexico. people would meet me there and we would make our way to the hotel. we would lay on the beach and eat. eat some more, maybe have a drink or two, and 2 weeks later i'll be making my way home. THATS IT. please, someone tell me if my dads decision to not even negotiate is understandable.. because to me it's just crossing the line. i will be 18 and here that means i'm a legal adult, i can take out a loan and do this without their permission but the last thing i want is a broken relationship with my parents. if you have suggestions on what i can do or say, or any advice at all.. please let me know. :(
Adolescent - 9 Answers
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1 :
it sounds a little ridiculous but hey there your parents what ya gonna do?
2 :
You could say that this trip to Mexico can be a life changing experience. It actually could if you tell them some amazing facts about mexico.
3 :
You may not understand it now but your dad is trying to protect you. Mexico is actually becoming pretty dangerous lately (I live in the US) there has been a lot of tourism attacks and killings going on and they are now warning people to stay away from Mexico. I am in my mid 20's and married with a child and if I daughter wanted to go I highly doubt I would allow it without parent supervision. Honestly. I would just try to make a deal with your parents.. if they let you go you will .. mow the lawn for a month or take out all the trash in the house.. just find out what exactly they want from you for them to feel comfortable with you going. They love you.
4 :
It sounds pretty ridiculous. I'd be peeved too. Why not ask your friend's parents to talk to your parents? They may feel more comfortable with you going. ^^
5 :
Legal adult is the key word here, you can do whatever you want. Maybe explain to them that you think they're overreacting. Either way I think you should go if you want.
6 :
As parents, they are right to be concerned about their child going abroad on their own without them. But on the other hand, they must understand that you're maturing and becoming an adult and need independence. I would try to have a talk with them and discuss in detail your plans on how you are getting there and your plans while you are there. But don't lose your temper. This would show not only your maturity, but the fact that you are taking it seriously and have thought everything through. I hope they come round to the idea because it sounds like a wonderful break away! All the best!
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They just want you safe. <3 Try to mention that you'd get a calling card or two and call them up twice a day- once in the morning, another at night. That might ease the tension. And tell them that you'll give them the friend's number, the uncle's number, the resort's number, the friend's number.
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that's a long way from home. my 17 almost 18 year old daughter wanted to go to mexico with friend and her family for a week.we live in the us and i said no. things happen. let your dad keep you safe a little longer. get the camera. go to school and travel with a study abroad program. i don't blame your dad. he's afraid to let you go that far at this point. soon you will be making your own decisions. show him some respect and understanding. its nearing the end of the time he'll be able to have a say. really, go along with it and look for other programs, my daughter will do international studies in college. hang in there. i understand. you can travel later, you can't so easily repair relationships. he means well. all the best
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As parents, they are just worried about you. You do realize it's not like you're going a couple hours away to the beach. You're going from London to Mexico. That's a pretty big distance. I live in the US and Mexico has some pretty bad areas. The only thing I can really think of is if you say you'll pay for your ticket, that might convince him a little better, and get the uncle, or the kid's parents to talk to them about it and see where that takes you.
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